Wedding Daze

 

Wedding Traditions Customs & Superstitions

There are many customs and superstitions linked with weddings here are just a few.

 

 

 

Something old, Something new, Something borrowed, Something blue and a silver sixpence in your shoe.

  • Something old represents the couple's friends who will hopefully remain close during the marriage . Traditionally this was an old garter given to the bride by a happily married woman in the hope that her happiness in her marriage and the stability of married life would be passed on to the new bride.
  • Something new represents the new adventure the newlyweds' are embarking
    on as a married couple along
    with a happy
    and prosperous future.
  • Something borrowed
    is often lent by the bride's family and is an item much valued by the family. The bride must return the item to ensure good luck. This symbolises the love and support of family and friends
  • Something Blue originated in ancient Israel where the bride wore a blue ribbon in her hair to represent love and fidelity.
  • And a silver sixpence in your shoe was to ensure wealth to the couple in married life. Today some brides substitute a penny in their shoe during the ceremony, as silver sixpences are less common.

 

The five almonds represent:-

  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Fertility
  • Happiness
  • Longevity

 

This famous old rhyme advises to plan your wedding during the first half of the week:

  • Monday for wealth
  • Tuesday for health
  • Wednesday the best day of all
  • Thursday for losses
  • Friday for crosses
  • Saturday for no luck at all

 

 

 

 

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In the past a wedding was seen as a time when people were particularly vulnerable to bad luck and evil spirits. Many originated centuries ago. Such as not being seen by the groom in her wedding dress before the ceremony is known throughout the country and many other parts of the world. Others may be regional or even maintained within families from generation to generation.

They are maintained in the belief that they will bring good luck and happiness to the couple at a time when their lives are changing, hopefully for the better.

The Victorian tradition of something old, new, borrowed and something blue and a silver sixpence in your shoe, is a popular tradition borrowed by modern brides.

Something old, something new,
something borrowed, something blue
and a silver sixpence in your shoe

The ringing of church bells at the end of a wedding is a joyous public declaration of the marriage. You may wish to incorporate bell ringing into your service by handing out tiny hand bells to each of your guests to ring as you and your new husband walk up the aisle after the ceremony

And the word honeymoon comes from an English tradition of drinking honey wine (mead) for one moon or one lunar cycle after a couples wedding? It is said to give the couple the most fertile chance of having a son.

In Scotland a popular custom was for the bride to "walk with the sun" to bring her good. She would walk from east to west on the south side of the church and then continue walking around the church three times.

An Irish tradition is to put lavender into your bouquet as this is supposed to bring good fortune and make all your wishes come true.

In Germany strolling down a path decorated in evergreen represent constancy.

In the USA, Candles are used to represent new beginnings and the joining together to two families.

A wonderful Turkish tradition is to ask your bridesmaids to sign the soles of your shoes according to the tradition at the end of the reception the girl whose name has worn off the most will be the next one to get married.

Proposing

In the past when the marriage proposal was a much more formal procedure, the groom would send his friends or members of his family to represent his interests to the prospective bride and her family. If they saw a pregnant woman, a blind man or a monk or a during their journey it was thought that the marriage would be doomed if they continued their journey as these sights were thought to be bad omens. However, to see pigeons, nanny goats or wolves were seen as good omens which would bring good fortune to the marriage.

Wedding Favours

The typical favour is five sugared almonds tied together in a pouch.

These symbolise the sweet (sugar) and bitter (almond) aspects of life.

As for Surnames

It was thought unlucky for a woman to marry a man whose surname began with the same letter as hers. The sentiment was summarised in the following rhyme:

To change the name and not the letter
is to change for the worst and not the better

The bride should not practice writing her new name before the wedding. This is thought to bring bad luck by tempting fate.

Choosing the Day and The Month to marry.

Although most weddings now take place on a Saturday it was considered unlucky in the past, as were Fridays particularly the 13th.

As for which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:

Married when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true.
When February birds do mate, you neither wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know.
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day.
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go.
Those who in July do wed must labour for their daily bred.
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine.
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember.
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

“From this a Wednesday in September would be the best.”

Marry in May and you'll live to rue the day

May has been considered an unlucky month to marry in for many reasons.

In Pagan times the start of summer was when the festival of Beltane was celebrated with outdoor orgies. This was therefore thought to be an unsuitable time to start married life.

In Roman times the Feast of the Dead and the festival of the goddess of chastity both occurred in May.

Queen Victoria is thought to have forbidden her children from marrying in May.

Marry in Lent, live to repent

Lent was thought an inappropriate time for a wedding, being a time of abstinence.

June was considered to be a lucky month to get marry because it is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of love and marriage. The summer as a whole was considered a good time to marry and this is partly to do with the sun's association with fertility.

These rhymes originated in Victorian times although some of customs referred in it are much older.